MESSAGE IN A BACKPACK™

ANDREA LASER

Children are often told what to do, where to go, and how to act throughout the day. And we, as adults, often feel rushed, over-scheduled, and required to actively parent our children at all times.

But both adults and children need breaks from their typical roles. It’ s important for children to have some control over their world. When children have opportunities to make decisions and increase their independence, they see that their own identities are important. They are able to build confidence when their thoughts and opinions are valued by those around them.

Here are some ways you can give your child opportunities to grow as a leader.

1. Relax during short trips.

We’ ve all been on an outing to the zoo or a museum where we take the role of timekeeper. We let our children know when it’ s time to move on to the next exhibit or when we will head home. Next time you take a day trip together, let your child decide how long to spend at each area. If your child is most interested in one exhibit, it’ s okay to let them enjoy that area until they’ re ready to move on. It’ s surprisingly freeing and peaceful to just appreciate time with your child without worrying about what you might be missing if you can’ t cover the entire attraction. Before rushing your child along, ask yourself why you are enforcing time limits. If there’ s no important reason to rush, let them be the timekeeper.